Tonight while I was cutting her hair, Lindsay started to look sad. I asked her what was wrong and she sighed and said "I wish I had long hair like the other girls at church." She then proceeded to tell me they tease her for having short hair. It is another drop in the bucket of something I am seeing more and more of lately.
Lindsay has become obsessed with her physical appearance. She's constantly asking if something makes her look pretty. What's bothersome to me even more is she has started talking about her weight, and asking about if she is supposed to lose it. (anyone that knows Lindsay knows the last thing that child needs to do is lose weight.) This just leaves me with a feeling of "WTH?"
We do everything "right". We don't make food an issue, we haven't exposed her to toys that I think make issues about looks. We don't watch tv, and we don't get magazines. We are sure to talk to her about looks not being important, that it's what's on the inside that counts, etc. When she asks me if something will make her pretty, I told her that she is always pretty, no matter what. That I think she is a beautiful person inside and out.
I'm just dying inside because this was something I had been trying so hard to avoid, and she's SO young. I mean, she's a kindergartener. Obsessed with whether or not she is pretty.
What do I do?
I wanted to add a picture of her. This was at her last birthday, almost a year ago, but still what she looks like. I think that when I say she's beautiful, it's not just because I am her mother and am biased. This beautiful soul worries about her weight and her looks, and I ache inside.